Easter has always been one of my favorite holidays. It’s one of the few holidays that were truly wonderful and peaceful when I was a child in my abusive household. Furthermore, the weather is lovely, there are flowers and candies, and it reminds me of my grandmother. When I was a youngling, we would often go to my grand aunt’s home in the mountains and search for well hidden eggs and presents in their backyard, which was acres of wild forest. These are some of the only good memories I have of my childhood, which often feels like a completely different life from long ago. Unfortunately that goodness never lasted, and as I grew older, my family crumbled.
I sometimes find myself craving to go back to those seemingly perfect Easters. I miss how good life felt on those days, how we forgot about so many of the terrible things we had to suffer through as children. They were moments of true happiness that were fleeting, but not forgotten. Fortunately, this Easter was absolutely wonderful, the best I’ve had since I was extremely young, and I am so pleased that I’m able to say that. Flashback!
I spent the great day of bunnies with my boyfriend and his family. It was relaxing and fun and everything that a holiday weekend should be. We celebrated both his mother’s birthday as well as Easter, so the whole weekend was a party. Saturday night I agreed to help my boyfriend’s mother make overnight french toast for Easter brunch; we even decided to make a tiny pan for me with gluten free bread. I was extremely excited about this since french toast is one of my favorite things in all existence next to my friends, my boyfriend, pizza and puppies (the order tends to vary).
Unfortunately, I ended up being utterly useless because a migraine forced me into bed. My body was overwhelmed with pain, my eyes ached from the light, and my stomach twisted itself into an unhappy, nauseated pretzel. I was seriously bummed that I wouldn’t get to help and felt like a disappointment, but my boyfriend assured me it was alright. We’re both still learning that the number one rule of chronic illness is that when your body says, “Stop! I need rest!” You have no choice but to abide, or suffer repercussions even worse than the current symptoms. I try not to fight it much, but when I do, he kindly reminds me that it isn’t entirely my fault.
The next morning my migraine had moved out of my brain and I was determined to be up early to help with the rest of Easter brunch preparations. I walked downstairs a little worried that my boyfriend’s mother would be upset with me. Instead, she and a few others immediately asked how I was feeling, genuinely concerned about my well-being. After assuring them that my brain did not explode like I thought it might, she informed me that she had made me my own special pan of french toast, and that she even was sure to wash her hands in between breads. I was simply elated, especially considered she had never cooked for me before. My plate on my first Easter brunch ended up looking like this:
And my face ended up looking like this…
…And everything was fantastic. I told her after brunch that she had successfully made me a safe and delicious meal without any help of mine at all. We fist bumped, and I was full and happy.
I always make a big deal about when people do these sorts of things for me, and most people don’t understand why. Well, allow me shed some light on why I feel compelled to do so. I have come to realize many people take eating for granted. I don’t mean just in the sense of having food to eat, but also in the sense of being able to eat anything they want, not having to fear fatal allergic reactions or Celiac reactions, and others being able to cook for them without second thought. Considering I have Celiac Disease, 13 food allergies and now GERD, I never expect anyone to cook for me because it just too challenging, not to mention stressful for me because unless I have watched their every move, I can’t be sure they didn’t cross contaminate or add something dangerous. I am by no means a picky eater, rather it is almost always a difference between life and potential death (and people wonder why I’m anxious!)
I am always thrilled when friends and family of friends take the challenge to make me safe food. My friends in Michigan, a few friends back home and now my boyfriend’s family may not fully understand just how much it means to a person such as myself to have people care enough about me to ensure that I can enjoy myself like everyone else in a safe and healthy way. It makes me feel loved, understood, and cared for, knowing that I’m worth the bit of extra thought and preparation to ensure my happiness.
I admit I was slightly anxious that day after I ate since the Celiac reaction sometimes takes a while to fully set in, yet two days later I have no reaction at all. I had the most spectacular doom-free Easter, and I can only hope that my life will be filled with plenty more.
To all the people who put in extra effort into making me feel safe, comfortable and loved, I am immensely grateful for you. I am one blessed bunny. (O:)3
*nose wiggle wiggle wiggle nose wiggle*